(Apologies for unsettling anyone’s recent meal.)
My news aggregator came up with this doozy of a quote the other day. It was an editorial reply to an article about Kathleen Seidel, and I’m not going to quote the entire letter. (Follow the link to read it yourself — if you want to reply to the author, do so on that newspaper’s reply page.)
I am one of those parents who has watched my autistic son go from being a vegetable to becoming human, thanks to chelation.
Okay folks, let’s get this straight.
These are vegetables:
These are children:
It is quite insulting at the personal level, and damaging at the social level to describe people with autism or another other condition as being “vegetables”. Doubtless the author believes that their child has improved due to the effects of an unproven “treatment” for an unsubstantiated diagnoses (e.g. autism as mercury poisoning from vaccines). But even if the diagnosis and the treatment actually had any factual basis, that would still not make such comments appropriate.
How would YOU feel if your parents described you as a “vegetable”?
Or as “having rotting brains”?
Or as a “train wreck”?
Or that your condition “relentlessly sucks life’s marrow out of the family members”?
Or as “an empty shell”?
Or as “soulless”?
Or that “Autism is worse than cancer in many ways, because the person with autism has a normal lifespan”?
Or as having “mad child disease”
Or that you “would have been better off aborted” because regardless of your aptitudes or potential skills, your existance is automatically assumed to be a “burden on society”.
I’m not making these terms up; you can google them. People with disabilities face enough stereotyping, discrimination, abuse, bullying, and are murdered more often than those without. (I’m not using hyperbole; click here or here.) Describing disabilities in such sensationalistic terms and derogatory ways does nothing to help people become better educated, better integrated into society and employed, or become better accepted in their schools, workplaces, social organisations and families.
More than that, one really has to wonder, What kind of parent describes their child in such insulting ways? And does so to the entire world? Such treatment to children over their lives does not bode well for their psychosocial development, that’s for sure.
When you hear people describing their family members, their students, peers, coworkers, or anyone else they know in such terms, take a moment to ask them,
- Why they use such descriptions?
- Do they really believe it, or are they just repeating something they’ve heard?
- Would they want to be described that way?
- How else can they describe their frustration or disappointmnet with events in life without insulting people like this?
But most of all, we need to be mindful when we speak up about such hate talk, and not use similarly disparaging terms. We don’t want to become that which we despise.
(A request to people commenting: please use appropriate language — follow the guidelines described in this post.)