On Kevin’s blog, a former employee of the Judge Rotenberg Center, “kml”, described how one autistic student was subjected to electric shocks via GED because he would greet people arriving at the classroom by saying, “Hello”. (The rationale being that the student’s actions were “disruptive”.)
Given that some parents spend a lot of time helping their autistic children develop verbal and social skills, this is especially heart-wrenching.
An authoritative, punitive approach doesn’t teach the student/child how to identify the true causes of their problems, and then find different ways of solving them. Instead, it teaches one to (1) not get caught, and (2) “might makes right” (where “right” in this case is more about privilege and power than about correctness).
This kind of framework keeps behaviour regulation extrinsic – the child relies upon others – instead of intrinsic. Even after the child has internalized the “you are a bad person” message and the “you deserve this” message, they still end up seeking approval from others for their good actions. The process is still ultimately extrinsic. All of this creates a state of perpetual rebelliousness and/or insecurity. There’s no real moral growth.
Even when the teachers dragoon other students into the system as underlings, no one is really empowered to truly help themselves. This is not how we teach respect. Respect is earned, not demanded by authority. Being respected and being controlling rarely happen simultaneously.
Secondly, such a system invariably puts the focus on what the rules are, rather than why we do what we do. One has to be able to practice and to reflect upon how ideas work in different circumstances, in order to develop the internal moral framework that is necessary for maturity. Being able to generalise concepts across different circumstances is sometimes challenging for our autistic/Asperger’s children, and one can’t develop that if they are always being told what to do.
If parents and teachers are finding that their children and students are being “little lawyers”, then they should seek to find what in the system is making everyone so anxious that every decision needs questioning. Because in truth, it is the system that is being questioned, more so than the authority! Re-asserting one’s authority doesn’t resolve that, it just adds more friction.
We want a system that enables us to create plans for coöperating with and helping others, rather than focusing on punishments and rewards. The problem with relying upon punishments and rewards is that they don’t help create the respect, responsibility and relationships for creating community that are our ultimate goals.
People who are heavily invested in punishment and reward systems, invested ego-wise, security-wise, and/or financially-wise (such as the JRC), will try to assert that not using the punishment and rewards to control behaviour will result in gross misbehaviour and chaos. This is a false dilemma; there are other ways of teaching our children.
When you’re hostile and suspicious, everything looks like dissent, everything looks like challenge, and everything looks like rebellion.
Even saying, “Hello”.